There was a married couple that was struggling to make their marriage work, after a length of 10 years of being together.

They began well and they had much love for each other, but after a period of time, the fire in their relationship started going out.

All over sudden they started becoming cold towards each other (insulting each other through spoken words, having no interest in each others company etc…)

but for the sake of their three children in the picture, they decided to look for a  way to make their marriage work, so that they may not damage their children’s lives through a divorce.

They started seeing a therapist, who tried his level best to bring harmony between these two , but nothing seemed to work.

So one day on their meeting with the therapist, as they sat there accusing, speaking words of anger and insulting each other, the therapist took out two pillows, and gave each one of them a pillow, and then he said unto them;

“why don’t you go on and express your anger towards each other , use these two pillows to hit each other, so that you may release out your feelings of anger against each other”.

This couple had a big pillar fight in the therapist office. After they had become exhausted of hitting each other with the pillows and calling each other bad names, they fell down on the floor and started to laughing about what they had just done.

The therapist stood up from his chair, and came close to them and said; “there you see, at least you can still laugh about your silly foolish outcomes of your anger”.

Now, my question is, how could a marriage that began with love, end up with bitter hatred towards each other?

When two people take a marriage principle that was invented (created) by God, and they do not submit that marriage under God’s principles (teaching and instructions from his word, which is the bible),

even what they do thinking that they are doing it for the sake of love, will end up turning into bitter hatred towards each other, because everything we do for the sake of unity and bonding as two different people in a marriage,

there must first be principles and godly instructions that these two individuals in a marriage receive, so that they may make their marriage work.

Remember that marriage was not a man made idea.

But a godly instituted revelation that will require a married couple to have godly fearing therapists, counsellors and godly teachers to be able to make their marriage work.

By Apostle A Ngabo